It’s Time for Parents to Get Serious About the Lives of Their Children
I’m going to do something I don’t normally do with you.
I know. I know. Stick to what you know! We do not like change! Booo!
Just bare with me okay? I’m sticking to something I know with this. It’s just a part of myself I haven’t really shared with you. I’ve let it slip through the cracks of my posts before. Gave you a little glimpse at the real me. My life is chaotic. I am a goofball. A lot of the times I don’t take things seriously.
But here is what I do take seriously.
I am a believer and follower of Christ. I believe in a personal relationship with Him. As a parent, I am trying to raise my kids to get to know Him as well.
Whether you are a believer or not, you will agree with me that raising kids in this day and age is one of the most challenging feats a person can face.
Everyone has specific values and morals they would like to instill in their children from the Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Buddhist, and Atheist. We all want our kids to become successful and productive members of society. Let me direct you to a Christian concept that we can all get behind together.
Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
These words were written by some old guy in the Bible who went by the name of Solomon. He had a lot of personal experience raising children given he was loaded with wives who all were baby factories… much like my own wife.
Children look up to the leadership they are around. Yes, they will rebel. Yes, they will try to buck the system, but ultimately, the lessons we teach our children will come to fruition in some way.
In the hustle and bustle of today’s society, finding time to really impart those lessons can seem almost impossible. We have forsaken the dinner table for a trip to McDonald’s . He have exchanged quality time with X Boxes and Mobile technology. Who doesn’t love a good game of Halo?
We have begun coming home from work, grumbling that the kids are messy, loud, smelly, and tiresome. We just want a break! But the break usually lasts from the moment you get home until you go to work the next morning. Thus leaves all the life lessons our kids are learning from Peter Griffon, their off the wall best friends, and some old person behind the teacher’s desk who secretly hates children because they’ve seen too many germ infested fingers, and smelled too many class farts to still hold onto their sanity.
As parents, and especially as fathers, we need to make time to truly impart life lessons into our children. We need to be aware of what is going on socially in their generation, personally in their minds, educationally in their classrooms, etc. We need to be active participants in their lives. We listen to our kids’ concerns and stories, and begin making plans based on what we hear. We actively choose the classroom teachers our kids have, and are in constant contact with those teachers me insure the success of their education.
I keep up with the trends as well, and discuss them with my kids. Let me give you an example of how I personally impart wisdom to my kids.
“Let’s talk about popularity and being cool. One of you wants to be popular with the in crowd, and the other wants to look too cool for school. Let me tell you right now how you can achieve that in today’s world. You have to be an idiot. Wanna know what kids are saying you have to do right now to be cool? You have to eat Tide Pods. Yes, your peers are really doing this stuff for the sake of a little fame points. Do you want to be stupid? Look at celebrities. For their fame and popularity, they are willing to go to horrible lengths. And after they’ve achieved it, most of them are still miserable. They get addicted to drugs, and many lose it which sometimes leads to suicide.”
I don’t play around when it comes to teaching my kids. No sugar coating.
The discussions only take 5 to 10 minutes. I find the time while I’m driving them to school. Just find your golden time for discussion. It’s easy.
Intentionally make time to be an example in front of your kids as well. Let them know you want to be around them, and show them how to deal with situations. Just telling them won’t make as much of a difference as showing them. They will always do what you do over what you say.