Category: Serious Crap

Defying Labels – You Can Overcome!

Labels are all around us. We place them on everything, sometimes not even being aware of it ourselves. It’s okay. Labeling is a natural process we use to organize thoughts in the great filing cabinet of our mind. What we need to realize while we are doing this, however, is that the labels we place are fluid; not permanent. I have a son who is special needs. He’s not mentally handicapped. He’s differently-abled. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not one of those politically correct people who is easily offended. I tell it like it is. For example, I’m fat. That’s where I am at right now. I’m not big boned, or husky. Just simply fat. But my son is just different much like the peers in his class. When he first began school, he was given an IQ test that placed a label on his life. This label landed him in special needs education classes, and caused everyone around him to look at him different. We actually had someone in a leadership position point his IQ score out to us, and tell us, “This is all we expect of him!” I disagree. Doctors told us he would never walk or...

When It Feels Like Faith is Not Enough

From the mind of a Bereaved Father Sometimes, having faith is a struggle. Sometimes it feels like faith doesn’t even matter. We are taught our whole lives that as long as we have just a little faith, we can do impossible things. We are taught that God will give us the desires of our hearts if we only believe. When we had Selah, we believed. We watched as she struggled. She was born at 27 weeks. That in itself shows that it was the beginning of a long, hard journey. We spent the majority of her time here on Earth living in the NICU at Mercy Hospital in St Louis. Selah was allergic to breast milk, and had severe acid reflux. Her reflux was so bad that we had to bypass her stomach all together with her feeding tube sending the food directly into her intestines. On the few short bursts at home, we brought home a feeding pump for continual feed. A blood test told us that she was missing data on her 2nd chromosome. Now, if there were deletions on her 3rd, then the diagnosis would have been clear. Third chromosome deletions show down syndrome. Second chromosome deletions...

I Will Never Forget – Remember Those Who Have Passed On

The mind of a bereaved parent doesn’t function the same as everyone around you. We hold tight to our child. Our child exists. Even now, our child holds a special place in our heart. Though the would may scar over, it will always be tender. It will always be easy to tear back open. Decades down the line, there will be moments of fresh hurt, of fresh longing, of reliving the moment. Our child passed away at a very young age. She was six months old when she transitioned into Heaven to be with the ultimate father. We weren’t allotted much time with her. At the anniversary of her passing, a great struggle began to happen. We lost something. It’s something a lot of people couldn’t understand. We lost the ability to say, “This time last year…” At that moment, there would never be a “this time last year” again. And my wife began to realize something that broke her heart. Any story we tell about her from then on out would be a rerun. We have no more stories, no more memories. She became afraid. Would people begin to forget that our precious girl existed? Will we forget? We...

A Few Steps to Inspire Creativity and Imagination in Your Children

Growing up in today’s hustle and bustle, it is very easy to raise children who lack in creativity and imagination. They have technology to dive into, social media to keep up with, and video games/TV with an already built fantasy for them. This lack of imagination can hurt their social lives, their school work, and even their career choices in the future. Many of these things require critical thinking abilities which stems from being able to be creative. But it’s not too late to start helping them to develop! Don’t despair! There are a few things you can do right now to begin to get their mind functioning again! Unplug Don’t get me wrong. I’m not one of those anti-technology junkies. I mean, I’m obviously using a computer right now. Even further, I’m a straight techie nerd who loves his video games. However, there comes a point where you have to prevent it from completely consuming you. Social media can swallow you whole. Video games now aren’t like the arcade games of old. They have to be played weeks on end to get anywhere. Developers go through hoops to get you attached. Netflix has opened the world up to binge...

Top 5 Most Embarrassing and Funny Moments During the Mission to El Salvador

If you missed the previous posts check here: Our Journey Begins Free Medical Clinic for a Nation in Crisis Bringing Light Back into the Eyes of Children Feeding the Hungry The mission trip to El Salvador has come to a close. With a heavy heart, but uplifted soul, the team said their goodbyes. We are officially state-side again trying to return to our daily routines, but looking faithfully forward to next year’s trip. I’d like to close this year’s series with a look into the personalities of our team. What better way than bringing up the funny, most embarrassing moments we had? Let’s take a look at our blooper reels.  Vote for Me – The group was tired, and stuck on the bus for another 2 hours after having a long service in San Salvador in a particular unsafe neighborhood. Our Pastor, maybe unintentionally,  providing an outlet to uplift our mood, and make the ride back to our hotel a more enjoyable experience. He began a campaign to become the president of the whole country. Our translator was promoted to the Speaker de Casa. Everyone else was given their own jobs as well. With his wife as his Hillary, I...

The Mission to El Salvador: Feeding the Hungry

If you missed the previous posts check here: Our Journey Begins Free Medical Clinic for a Nation in Crisis Bringing Light Back into the Eyes of Children Feeding the Hungry Blooper Reels The struggle in El Salvador is absolutely real. With government corruption, violence, and poverty, many citizens are just left without. El Salvador is truly a prime example of trouble in Paradise. The scenes are beautiful. Palm trees and tropical plants grow wild. Mountains and volcanoes are just on the horizen in every direction. However, the homes are left unkept by slumlords. Floors are made out of dirt. Basic household utilities are considered unneeded  by landlords. With the help and contribution of supporters who believe in making the world a better place for their fellow man, Consumed International Ministries’ team of 17 as well as some local citizens were able to go into these neighborhoods, and provide food to over 100 families. We were able to enter their homes to talk with them; to hear their stories while being surrounded by their grotesque living conditions. We prayed with them, and gave them enough food to hold them over for a few weeks. Along this part of our mission, we...

The Mission to El Salvador: Free Medical Clinic for a Nation in Crisis

The streets of El Salvador run rampant with homeless, infirm, and confused people. Children have to help support the family. Homes are turned into make shift shops selling their wares an minimal costs simply to keep the children from starving. People turn to gang families for support, and crime is elevating for the sake of survival. Our team at Consumed International Ministries have been given a vision to reach out, and aleviate that need if only for a short while. We wish to show them that their brothers and sisters from another culture see their struggle, and we care.   We survived a whole day! It was pretty eventful. The team settled in on our first night exhausted from all the travel, and being awake for a 24 hour period just to get here. We were a group of walking zombies.  The next morning came early. Saturday was the day of our free medical clinic, or medical mission. The clinic was a temporary structure set up on the property that we are claiming for a future school, orphange and mission headquarters. We were able to send over $3,000 to purchase supplies, medicines, food, and building materials for our structure. A...

The Mission to El Salvador: Our Journey Begins

After hard work, fundraising, and the generous donations of many friends and strangers, our group of 17 people has finally landed in El Salvador. El Salvador is a beautiful land with ocean on both sides, and mountains in between. With the tropical foliage scattered al over the terrain, and a volcano viewable in the distance at every point I have ever been to, the sight is just breath taking. Flying into San Salvador, one of the cities, you get a sense that it is just like any other high functioning society. There are cars driving on the highway, fast food littered on every corner. Yes, everything has switched to Spanish from your usual language (mine of court being English) and the climate changes to more tropical; however, you don’t get an automatic feel that the culture is any different than an 1st world country. Just a small bus ride away, you soon realize all that hustle and bustle is only attributed to their busines center surrounding airport life. The countryside changes from fast food to street peddlers doing their best just to make ends meet. Apartment complexes begin to change into old worn down brick shelters that they call home....

Common Misconceptions About Stay at Home Dads

In today’s day and age, child care if off the wall expensive. I don’t fault them for charging that much at all. I mean, I have seen my kids in action. They are well worth the cost of childcare. The simple problem is I have 4 at home, and they each have multiple medical needs that require doctors visits. Some of them have more than one doctor they have to see regularly. Ashlee holds a full time job that requires her to work insane hours. She’s a paramedic. It’s her passion; her dream come true. She went through half a decade to achieve this goal, and she’s very good at it. I; however, am a stay at home dad. It’s hard for me to say sometimes. But there it is. I don’t say it out loud because other men in around automatically look down on you from the get go without looking into your life. There are several misconceptions about stay at home fathers at least in my case. Yes, I do know there are some dead beat dads out there who slump on the couch while getting spoon fed. Let’s assume they aren’t included in any of this article. I...

O.J. Simpson : Getting What He Deserves

So far in my blogging career, this is a first for me. I’m not that big on current events. Having a large family keeps me pretty focused on my own little world. There’s not time for much else. My current event is who smeared the chocolate pudding on my bathroom wall. At least I hope it’s chocolate pudding. *Shudder* My blog is about chaos. Sometimes it’s funny chaos, and sometimes it’s serious chaos. But it’s not only about my chaos. There’s chaos in the world as well. *Shock* Chaos broke out when OJ Simpson was brought before his parole board. They set the date for his release, and all was right in the world. Doves were released, and a choir broke out in Kumbaya. Maybe I’ve got that a little mixed up. Okay. Back from fantasy world. People around the U.S. were up in arms spitting out hatred and animosity. They’re calling for his crucifixion so to speak. They are wanting him to get what he deserves. I think I even read some clown out there that wanted to put a pie in his face. It was awful. The crowds gather for a crucifixion every time there is a criminal...