5 Things That Really Stress Out Mom and Dad
Okay y’all. Let’s just get honest for a minute. Being a mom is hard. Being a dad is hard. Heck parenting is hard, and with that comes huge stressors. I mean seriously, we’re responsible for making these tiny humans productive members of society. That is simply not an easy task. We are sleep deprived, overworked, underpaid. We are taxis, maids, nurturers, and doctors. We negotiate with tiny terrorists and rarely get the better end of the deal. We are the unsung heroes of the world, and our stress level can reach overwhelming heights.
So let’s talk about what makes us absolutely crazy as parents and some ideas I have on how to survive these trying obstacles.
1. When your children cry for absolutely no reason
Look ya’ll, I won’t even lie, when my children start screaming like crazy people for no reason it makes ME want to cry. They literally want nothing except to cry, and watch you search for an answer. It’s almost like it brings them some Joy. Now I know obviously it doesn’t, but there are times I feel it does. It’s like, “Hey! Let’s play a game. Scream until Mommy cries!”
My youngest daughter used to throw fits just to be seen. If we walked into a new room, she would stop her fit, place her self on the floor in front of us, and begin again.
Again, I won’t lie. I have genuinely cried at times, but as time has gone on I have gotten a little smarter. Now I’ll just walk away. You want to cry, cry. If you are not hungry, you are not thirsty, you are not sick, you are clean, and you are not bleeding, there is no reason for me to entertain your ridiculousness. They eventually tire out, and go to sleep, or get bored.
2. When kids do not appreciate things
This is probably one of my biggest pet peeves. Ungrateful children make for very grumpy parents. Now mind you, we all have that child, you know the one, someone gives them a present and before you can get to them, they’ve said something along the lines of, “That’s ugly..” or, “I don’t like that..” You apologize profusely, explain that you’ve told your child repetitively to be kind, or perhaps pretend like they’ve never said something like that before. Either way, once in every parents life, they have moments like this.
Then there’s those children who ask for a new something at every store they go. If you visit 3 stores, they want three new things. It’s never enough. They want. They take. They siphon everything out of you that they can. I have personally met children in foreign countries who will hold tight to a stuffed bear for years, but our Americanized children start begging for Iphones at the age of 4, and want the newest edition of everything as soon as it comes out.
Now I wish I could break out some amazing cure for this; however, all I can tell you is to keep telling them to be kind. As they get older, they’ll find a filter. Hopefully. And these moments will become less. Until then “sorry” will be a common word you use.
3. When they ask questions you can’t answer over and over again
We have an 8 year old, Elijah, who is special needs. Now don’t get me wrong, he’s amazing. He has grown so much over the last couple of years. One thing though that has not changed is his ability to ask questions. That boy can ask the same question 80 times. Now when you’ve answered accordingly 79 times, he still going to ask the 80th.
“Because Elijah, that’s just the way it is!”
“It just is..”
I mean seriously you have to applaud this kid for his resilience. But for me, it makes me insane. I am genuinely impressed that my head hasn’t actually exploded.
Someday, I will compile a list of questions he has asked throughout the day, and post it on our Facebook page so you can get a good look into our world. You’ll laugh while we cry.
4. When puberty begins
Puberty is a very dangerous, nasty word. Most people associate it with pimples and other physical changes. Oh, but it is so much more than that. We had always dismissed more experienced parents wondering what could be worse than childhood years. Apparently, they undergo a massive metamorphosis that transforms male and female alike into an emotional Incredible Hulk who leans toward Emo tendencies.
Let me tell you right now with two children going through it at the same, time it’s terrible. I’m fairly certain they’re both bipolar. I mean, is it even possible to cry every time somebody says something to you? Or want to punch everyone at the same time because you thought they were being mean? For my children it is.
For example, during a softball game, I mentioned that our team was being trampled by the older team. It was just a factual statement not meant to be offensive. It was an observation. My daughter overheard me. Instant tears. “We’re trying our best mom! We can’t be perfect!” She stormed off.
They are so dramatic. Every pimple is a mountain. Every new hair that sprouts needs to be shown. (Some, you don’t want to see, and others you’re certain are imaginary.) They’re no longer just kids. They pick up on all of your innuendos and jokes you probably shouldn’t tell in front of children. They repeat those same things. They argue with you about everything. You’re wrong. You’ll always be wrong, and as long as you accept that right now, puberty will be a breeze.
I will tell you a cure once we survive.